Anti Bully Training Course

PATHWAY
Self: Belonging and Responsibility, Friends and Relationships
AGE GROUP
14-16 years
Anticipate Time
1 hour min
GROUP SIZE
2-5, 5-15, 15-30
Values
Courage, Justice

Synopsis

Pathfinders receive training on how to stand up against Bullying at school

Through participation in this Pursuit, the Pathfinder will:

  1. Review the nature and effects of bullying
  2. Develop a plan for bully intervention
  3. Simulate helping another student with a bullying problem

Scripture Focus

Memory Verse

Psalms 106:3
Blessed are they who maintain justice, who constantly do what is right.

Jesus spoke with actions and words about injustice in His world. He is no less concerned today. It is our responsibility to stand for what is right.

Preperation

  1. Resource a way to laminate the cards for the Pathfinders after they finish this Pursuit.

Outline

Bullying is a problem in every school. Some have a bigger problem than others, and some forms of bullying are more subtle than others. For the sake of this Pursuit, the term ‘bullying’ will also include unwanted teasing and harassment, both verbal and physical.

In the world today, we have many people being trained as ‘anti-terrorists’ in order to protect us. Terrorism is a form of bullying. This Pursuit trains Pathfinders in ‘anti-bully’ tactics.

Introduction

In this pursuit, older Pathfinders receive training on how to stand up against bullying at school. They review what bullying is about and develop a plan to help other students who find themselves as a target of bullies.

  1. Review the dangers and prevalence of bullying
    1. Divide into three groups and ask each to look at the Appendix material in Appendix A, B and C. (Reasons for getting bullied, what bullying looks like and how it affects people)
    2. Ask each group to prepare a skit to demonstrate the information about each of their topics.
  2. Develop a ‘7-Steps’ card for attending to bullying
    1. Review the 7 steps for dealing with bullying in a school situation. (See Appendix D)
    2. Divide the group into seven and have each group prepare a short skit illustrating one of the 7 points. Then go over the 7 steps on how to deal with bullies again.
    3. Give each Pathfinder a card (3×5 or bigger) to write down each of the 7 steps in a way so that they can remember what it means. Have them each come up with their own ‘title’ for each of the seven steps. Have them choose at least two of the quotes or texts in Appendix E to write on their card.
    4. If you can, laminate the cards for the Pathfinders to keep to help fight bullying in their own school.
  3. Practice in a role play
    1. To complete the training, give the Pathfinders a chance to put their cards into practice in a role-play situation. Divide the group into two or three smaller groups.
    2. Ask each group to use the information they have learned in this Pursuit to create a common bullying situation they might experience at their school.
    3. Act out the situation showing a person getting bullied and the target person going to a friend for help. The friend has the ‘7 steps’ card (or knows someone who does and goes to them) and helps the target to deal with the bullying situation.
  4. Graduation
    1. Each Pathfinder who has fully participated in the Pursuit made their own personal 7 step anti-bully card, and participated in the realistic role-play will graduate with certification in anti-bully tactics. (You can design a certificate if you wish!)
    2. End with a challenge to each Pathfinder to address all forms of bullying, unfairness and inequality at their school. (Reflect on the Memory Text)

Debrief

Reflection
  • Tell about a time when you’ve been bullied, or seen someone else be bullied.
Interpretation
  • How does bullying happen at your school?
Application
  • What have you done in the past when you’ve seen others being bullied?
  • Do you think you could use or help others with these seven steps?
Commitment
  • Do you really want to help someone with bullying? What are you going to do about it?

Appendix

Appendix A

Some reasons students get bullied:

Being fat or thin Being rich or poor Being tall or short
Being loud or quiet Different hair or skin colour Different name
Being good at school or having trouble with school …and the list goes on.

The only thing is that for some reason, one student (or group of students) picks someone as a target to bully. But there is never an excuse for bullying.

In fact, the ‘target’ may well be doing (or have done) something to aggravate the bullies. A girl may have spoken to someone’s boyfriend, a boy may have made a smart comment to an older student or a girl may have sat in someone else’s seat on the bus. Bullies often believe that people deserve to be punished for these types of things. But regardless of what a person has done, it is NEVER the role of a student to ‘payback’ another student by bullying.

The problem with bullying always lies with the bully who will follow a pattern of aggressive (physical or verbal) behaviour against another student. Therefore it is important to remember that it is the bullying that needs to first be addressed, and not the target who needs to change. Realise that if you start telling a target that they need to dress different or act different in order to avoid bullying, then you unwittingly justify the bully behaviour.

The target does sometimes need to be made aware of and sometimes address their own patterns of behaviour, but our first point of call is to deal with the bully and the bullying incident.

Appendix B

What bullying (or harassment) looks like:

Pushing or hitting
Any unwanted touching
‘bumping’ as you walk past
‘Put downs’ openly or under the breath whenever you are near
Threats
Notes sent to you with put downs, rumours or threats
Name calling
Vandalism – pushing books off a desk or damaging belongings
Stealing
Gossip, story telling, spreading rumours

Appendix C

How bullying affects people:

Feel sad
Feel lonely
Feel frustrated and angry
Feel trapped and ‘hunted’
Feel helpless
Feel confused
Feel scared

Bullying has a strong effect on students who get bullied. It can cause stress, disrupt relationships, make a person sick or depressed, and can cause death through suicide. Bullying is always a serious problem and needs to be stopped.

Appendix D

7 Steps for Students to Deal with Bullying:

1. Be Smart
Know (ask so you can find out) your rights concerning any behaviour that seems uncomfortable or unwanted by you. If you feel that way, it is probably a form of bullying.

2. Make a Statement
It is vital that you SAY CLEARLY that you do not want the kind of behaviour that is happening. Say, “Stop That!” or “I don’t like that.” Or “Please don’t do that again!” in a calm, strong and confident voice. You need to let the bully know that you do not want what is happening to continue.

3. Ignore Taunts and Threats
Do not react or respond to a bully in the same way that you are being bullied. It serves no good for you and limits the punishment that a bully will receive when caught. Walk away calmly.

4. Have a Witness
If you are with a friend, ask them to remember what was said. Write down incidents in a Diary or Journal so that the person who deals with the bully will have ‘evidence’ to support your claim.

5. Confront
It is often a good strategy to confront the bully face to face in a safe environment (a classroom or a place where there are teachers around). Calmly and directly ask the bully what their problem is. This is NOT a time to ask for a fight or to get in any kind of argument. Genuinely ask what it is that you are doing to make them bully you. If you can, write down their answer. Again, repeat the statement that you don’t like the bullying behaviour. Calm confrontation is the best way to bring a hidden problem into the open. (There may even be something you are doing that you didn’t realise).

NOTE: If you have teachers or older students who are trained in mediation, it is often wise to have a formal process or at least a neutral witness to be present when you confront a bully.

6. Tell
When you have taken the above steps and bullying/harassment has continued, then the problem MUST be addressed by a person in authority – a teacher or a parent. If you are still unsure about whether the problem is serious enough to report, then go to a teacher and ask anonymously (“I have this friend who has a problem and needs some advice…”). Realise that people almost always DON’T WANT TO REPORT A BULLY.

It is the secret, controlling, ‘power game’ of the bully that gives bullying its power. Often a person who is being bullied with think, “THEY CAN’T DO ANYTHING TO STOP IT” and that bullies can get away with whatever they want. This is not true. Bullying can be stopped.

7. Move On
Once the bully has been dealt with and the situation addressed, it is important to get on with your life. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on revenge or feel sorry for what has happened to you in the past. Determine not to allow the bully to control your feelings or the direction of your life. Move on with your life in a positive way knowing that you are stronger for having dealt with a difficult issue in your life. If the bullying starts up again, deal with it again – but don’t despair. Always determine that your life will not be ruled by a bully, nor will you sink to behaving like a bully yourself.