A Three Course Deal

PATHWAY
Self: Friends and Relationships
AGE GROUP
14-16 years, 16+ years
Anticipate Time
2 hours min
GROUP SIZE
2-5, 5-15, 15-30
Values
Commitment, Faith, Friendship, Honesty, Sharing

Synopsis

Parents use a progressive dinner to share faith stories with Pathfinders about how God has worked in their dating relationship, marriage and parenting.

Through participation in this Pursuit, the Pathfinder will:

  • Participate in a meal with friends
  • Show respect when listening to stories
  • Ask relevant questions to explore the issues being discussed

Scripture Focus

Memory Verse

Jeremiah 29:11
I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'

“We have nothing to fear for the future, except that we forget the way the Lord has lead us in the past.” This Pursuit gives voice to stories which demonstrate the movement of God in lives close to us. It not only builds faith in our young people just through the hearing of personal stories, but also demonstrates what faith looks like, not only when the big decisions in life need to be made, but also when the bills can’t be paid and the teenager is going awry. It shows dependency, trust, and thankfulness CAN and DO spring from the dailyness of life.

Preperation

  1. Ask a number of parents who are open in their faith sharing if they’d like to be involved in this Pursuit.
  2. Decide on your venue – either in three different rooms at the Church or at someone’s home in three different rooms.
  3. Arrange all catering needs in liaison with the parents involved. Kindly ask if they could cater for the part of the meal they will participate in.

Outline

Give parents the opportunity to share stories from their faith walk while serving a progressive dinner to your Level 3 Pathfinders. Have each course served by a different couple from your Church? You may like to set a theme for each course and as the Pathfinders eat, a number of Pathfinders can ask a question during that course (see Appendix for the following series of questions in an enlarged format or make up your own). Parents will take turns telling their stories:

Entree:
  • What part did God play in how you met your spouse?
  • What personal qualities were important to you when you chose your spouse?
  • What life events have greatly affected your relationship with God?
Main Course:
  • How has God worked in your relationship?
  • What is one of the challenges in a marriage relationship?
  • How do you help your relationship grow? (Nurture it)
  • How is God working in your marriage or your life right now?
Dessert:
  • What are some of the challenges you face as parents?
  • How has God worked in your lives as parents?
  • What has being a parent taught you?

Encourage your Pathfinders to ask additional questions, and encourage your parents to really open up with and share with honesty. Enjoy this opportunity to strengthen relational ties!

You may like to Debrief at the end of the dinner, or come back to it at your next Club Meeting and see what parts of the sharing have been retained.

Debrief

Reflection
  • What was the best thing about this experience?
  • What surprised you about what was shared?
Interpretation
  • What do you think the biggest challenge will be in finding a marriage partner?
  • What do you think the biggest challenge will be in being married?
  • What do you think the hardest thing about parenting will be?
  • What qualities do you think every parent should have?
Application
  • What can you do now to prepare you for the challenges of relationships as an adult?
  • How can you avoid the pitfalls that so many fall into with choosing the wrong partner?
  • Someone has said,’Great marriages aren’t so much about finding the right person, as being the right person.’ What do you think this means? Do you agree?
Commitment
  • How can you ‘be the right person’ – for yourself – this week?

Appendix

Entree:

  • What part did God play in how you met your spouse?
  • What personal qualities were important to you when you chose your spouse?
  • What life events have greatly affected your relationship with God?

Main Course:

  • How has God worked in your relationship?
  • What is one of the challenges in a marriage relationship?
  • How do you nurture your relationship?
  • How is God working in your marriage or your life right now?

Dessert:

  • What are some of the challenges you face as parents?
  • How has God worked in your lives as parents?
  • What has being a parent taught you?